All too often, we hear about someone taking a ‘walk of shame’ following an evening of careless sexual activity. They’re wearing the same clothes as the night before, are likely hungover, and in desperate need of a shower. Thoughts of regret and confusion race through their minds as they slowly accept that they did something shameful, but is this really fair?
What’s so wrong about two practical strangers coming together to fulfill their sexual desires? Those of us who have an open mind can take great pleasure in this type of sexual interaction, but we seem to be in the minority.
Society and popular media has taught us that we should feel ashamed the morning following a night of extreme sex with someone whom we’re not in a relationship with, but why? It’s in our DNA to mate with each other, and it can be unhealthy not to give in to your sexual urges. Shouldn’t we be encouraging each other to take on as many sexual partners as possible?
Is it still considered a ‘walk of shame’ if we have to walk somewhere after masturbating? If so, most of us would be guilty of this on a daily basis, which is unfair since masturbation is scientifically proven to have countless health benefits.
On your walk home the morning after a night of hardcore sex with someone who seemed much better looking the night before, you should feel a sense of pride. Don’t allow sexually immature people to make you believe you should feel guilty or ashamed simply because you rewarded yourself by achieving a high level of arousal.
But what if you were involved in a sexual encounter with a less than desirable individual? Instead of second guessing your decision, take pride in knowing you helped someone relieve their sexual frustration. Perhaps no one else was willing to have sex with them, but in a moment of inebriated weakness you were kind enough to do so. Their self-esteem was likely boosted and now they’ll be able to contribute when their friends are all bragging about ‘that time they had sex’.
It’s time to do away with ‘the walk of shame’, and time to introduce ‘the walk of pride’.